These Three Words

I love you… the three words most long to hear and often are heartbroken when the phrase isn’t reciprocated from the person we are head over heels in love with. Well today, he told me he loved me and I almost missed it.  

You see, it didn’t come in the form, “I LOVE YOU!”

No, it was presented in this statement, “My only concern is you not having time for your own business,” and for the remainder of the conversation he described his concerns for me and my dreams, his hopes for me and my dreams, and how he would be willing to assist me in making my dreams come true.

He didn’t say those 3 little words, and I am glad he did not because I would have missed out on the wealth of his love for me had I limited him to just the phrase, “I love you.” In my Teach Me How to Love post I said love is a verb and it is what you do not simply how you feel. Today he showed me his love and took 35mins and 26 seconds while running late for work to put his love in action for me.

Being that my love language is “Words of Affirmation,” I sometimes what to have love affirmed verbally and as a result, I use to look for others to show they love me through verbal validation. The reality is saying “I love you” is only one way to express love and while I am not negating the action of verbalizing love in those three words (because honestly, a person should be able to say it), I am saying, don’t limit the endless possibilities and methods for how another person shows their love. You may walk away from people who love you immensely all because they did not package it the way you want even though they were giving you what you want, need, and deserve… unconditional love. 

Letting Go to Grow

So, yesterday I had my weekly empowerment session with my GEMS at McKinley High School. The focus of yesterday's session was to teach each GEM various tools and techniques they could use to help them let go of bad habits, thoughts, and beliefs; and also to stretch and grow into who they desire and are designed to be. 

Well, as life would have it, this lesson would be applied to my life on today. As of about 30mins ago I was reminded that I am too wonderful and too amazing to settle for the treatment I was accepting from a person in my life.

I realized that while I have no regrets and even learned a lot about myself while this person and I shared time and experiences together, if I stayed longer, I would eventually resent them and myself.

NOTE: Choosing yourself over someone else is a lesson every woman should learn and practice. It is not selfish! Your well being is just as important as the next person's!

It is not selfish to choose your well being over some else. In fact, when you are constantly putting yourself last and the other person is ok with it, you are in a parasitic relationship. A parasitic relationship means that there is a host and a parasite. The parasite latches on to the host and takes nutrients (love, time, money, energy, resources, thoughts, etc) from the host but does not replenish what it takes.

I don't hate nor do I resent this person, but if I realized if I  allowed myself to not accept the truth that was so directly in front of me, I would be doing myself a disservice.

So today, I am letting go so I can grow. I am hopeful and excited about life and all the great things I am doing and the idea of allowing one relationship to undo all other endeavors in my life is just silly.  

I mean, who does that anyways???

So if you find yourself hanging on to a relationship (friends, love ones, significant others, co-workers, etc) that isn't bearing the fruit it once used to or the kind that you want to eat, simply up root yourself from the situation and leave that parasite behind so you can be planted in your garden, preferably near a stream with ample sunshine, and just watch yourself SHINE and Grow all because you had the courage and wisdom to LET GO!

HEALING - By India.Arie

I release all disappointment
From my mental, physical, spiritual and  emotional body
'Cause I know that spirit guides me
And love lives inside  me
That's why today I take life as it comes

These Three Words...

I love you… the three words most long to hear and often are heartbroken when the phrase isn’t reciprocated from the person we are head over heels in love with. Well today, he told me he loved me and I almost missed it.  

You see, it didn’t come in the form, “I LOVE YOU!”

No, it was presented in this statement, “My only concern is you not having time for your own business,” and for the remainder of the conversation he described his concerns for me and my dreams, his hopes for me and my dreams, and how he would be willing to assist me in making my dreams come true.

He didn’t say those 3 little words, and I am glad he did not because I would have missed out on the wealth of his love for me had I limited him to just the phrase, “I love you.” In my Teach Me How to Love post I said love is a verb and it is what you do not simply how you feel. Today he showed me his love and took 35mins and 26 seconds while running late for work to put his love in action for me.

Being that my love language is “Words of Affirmation,” I sometimes what to have love affirmed verbally and as a result, I use to look for others to show they love me through verbal validation. The reality is saying “I love you” is only one way to express love and while I am not negating the action of verbalizing love in those three words (because honestly, a person should be able to say it), I am saying, don’t limit the endless possibilities and methods for how another person shows their love. You may walk away from people who love you immensely all because they did not package it the way you want even though they were giving you what you want, need, and deserve… unconditional love. 

Stevie Wonder’s These Three Words

These three words Sweet and simple These three words  Short and kind    These three words Always kindles      An aching heart to smile inside